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Posts Tagged ‘Positive’

Are you an Optimist – Part II?

Tuesday, January 21st, 2014

Are you an Optimist – Part IIIn the previous article, we discussed a few points on developing a positive mindset. Here is a few more adding to the list:

  • Learn from Past Experiences: Taking lessons in a classroom is always different from actually experiencing things in real. In school, we learn the lesson before taking the exam. In real life, we take the exam first and then learn the lesson. Therefore, in real life the test is our experiences. If we fail in the test then it means that we did not have a good experience. In such cases, we examine the scenario first and learn the lesson. And, this helps us to avoid committing the same mistake again and again.
  • Detach yourself from the outcome: Every day cannot be a good day for us in life. Some days are happy times where as some will be sad. A lot of time, we have to face situations that take place against our will. Life is all about facing unexpected situations! So, ensure to put in your best in every situation but do not be upset if things do not happen in accordance to our choices. Do not be too much attached on attaining desired results, as it will lead to disappointment and upset your mood. At times, you got to value the journey and not the results!
  • Plan a list of goals and actions: Set the goals you wish to accomplish in life and map a plan to achieve them. When you are quite focused about what you wish to do and carry out things accordingly then a stronger will power will help to support your actions and even your attitude for results.
  • Focus on important things: Stay focused irrespective of any situation that you might have to undergo. In fact visualize fulfilling your goals. Develop a strategy for dealing with your obstacles and problems. Prioritize your goals! Focus on important things that need to be auctioned first. Also, take out some time for your relaxation and fun as this will keep your spirits high and give you better chances of attaining success.
  • Associate with Positive People: The presence of good people around you is very important. Always ensure to be around optimistic people as they will always help you to build your self – esteem and confidence.
  • Take New Challenges: Every day is a new day of learning. So do not restrict your life experiences just to your normal and regular schedule. Take risks and accept new challenges in life. Also, be open to accept everything. You may not know everything in life, so at times you got to listen to others as well.
  • Forgive and leave your worries behind: Mistakes and failures are the root causes for everything. If somehow you let go pain, agony and fear that we keep it within ourselves then we can release out a lot of trouble from our lives. So, forgive yourself and others for committing mistakes.
  • Ask for Guidance: Ensure to give a short prayer to god everyday! Have faith in him and he will surely guide you to get the best.

Are you an Optimist?

Monday, January 13th, 2014

Are you an Optimist?In a brand New Year that we have stepped in to, what is the most important thing that most of you are focusing on? Most of you would have already fixed your New Year resolutions and working towards fulfilling it. And, by now some of you would have even forgotten their resolutions also. Is it that difficult to live up to your words? What is it that is makes you back off from your words! I think, maintain a positive attitude.

All of us experience various kinds of thoughts in our heads – positive and negative. Positive thoughts generate a positive reality. On the other hand, negative thinking leads to negative outcomes. Both these thinking modes are in a constant tug of war in our minds. Positive thinkers tend to deal with life confidently, looking on the brighter side of things – unlike negative thinkers who tend to look at things non-constructively. It is obvious that most of us prefer to keep the positive element plugged to our minds, keeping negativity away. But, it is really difficult to do so! On a daily basis, thousands of negative thoughts at least for a second do run in our minds. And, to escape from such situations, what need to train our minds to focus on good things rather than the bad ones. At times, we do not realize on certain things unless we have lost it. So, instead of waiting for things to disappear, why not enjoy it in the moment. Therefore to train your minds, so that you focus on the brighter side of things you need to cultivate a positive aspect towards life. The below mentioned are a few tips of developing a positive mindset:

  • The first and foremost is love yourself: No matter what you experience in your life. Never hate yourself. If you do not respect yourself – others will not. Love yourself! I know we tend to pull out fault in ourselves, but do not over do it. Instead learn to improve yourselves by learning, cultivate new friendships, appreciate good work and pursue worthwhile causes. Praise yourselves as much as you praise others. When you start feeling confident about yourself, automatically positive thoughts will flow in.
  • Be Realistic: Make sure you aim for things that are possible. Hoping for unattainable things is a waste of time and energy. It will only bring disappointment. After fixing a goal, ensure that you work towards it as well. Miracles do not happen. Like if you wish to lose weight, ensure that you take appropriate measures to achieve it as well. You cannot get slim overnight. Likewise, for other things as well.
  • Know yourself: There is no person in the world who can tell you who you really are. Realize your passions, like, wants and principles. Ensure to fix up some time every week for self reflection in solitude. Only, if you know yourself too well, can you reach out to your goals physically, emotionally and mentally.
  • Balance your Desires: The world we live in is a place of opposites. Like there are rich and poor people, love and hate, rich and dark, male and female. Well, that is how life is. Everything cannot be perfect with everyone. So, we need to balance out or desires. You might find people around you are richer, happier or living a better life that you. But, you should not aim to have what they have, instead wish for what you can have.

-       To be continued!

Handle Stress Immediately and Calmly

Wednesday, April 10th, 2013

Handle Stress Immediately and CalmlyAll of us have to admit that the best things in life do not remain forever. Good things come and go! Nice situations turn into bad ones. People say stuff, things turn out wrong and you might end up in a terrible situation. And, what is even horrible is that no cares to help you out from it, in fact they enjoy seeing you in the miserable situation. Yes, the truth is that no cares seeing you upset! They might have even caused the situation for you. They see you coming and run for a cover. Well, then how on earth will you escape from it all?

Quit your Negative Thinking

Yes, the first and foremost thing is to quit ranting. Your rant is not helping you at all. I know most people say that venting out is helpful. Well, according to me it is not good unless the situation seriously demands it. And, that too it should be just once. What, I believe is that every moment you spend on ranting and for every ounce of energy you spend on talking, you are missing out moments that you could have spent in a better manner like laughing or spending some good time. Whining and crying, you are not solving any problem but intensifying your stress feelings. So, why not spend that energy in a positive manner and that will even help you out from the problematic situation. Stop ranting about the situation and start solving it. Do not make a bad situation worse. Use the energy for something creative and worthwhile.

Stop Thinking and Start Breathing

By ranting you would have realized, how fast your heart starts beating. You are so much heated up that you cannot even think of doing anything positive. Well, that is ok! All that you need to do is just stop thinking. I know, at time sit is a bit difficult to follow, and you have no option but do it. You will have to stop thinking about the situation. Block your mind from all these thoughts. The best way to do so, is start taking slow cleansing deep breaths. If required, close your eyes. Block that voice from your head. I know those things will still want to come to your mind, but continue breathing. Breathe from your diaphragm and put all your energy and attention in inhaling and exhaling slowly and calmly. If this helps then go to a place where there is silence and closing your eyes and doing it, will help you to gain more calmness in mind. It signals your anxiety levels that everything is fine. And, if you still cannot shut off the negative thoughts then hum a happy tune whilst you breathe. Fill in that space with happiness by interrupting the negative thoughts. Allow your breath to flow freely and put in all your energy in breathing.

Exercise your Positive Muscles

Staying in a positive place does require effort. However, being positive is a choice. There is no requirement of being so worked up and overwhelmed about every situation. Take a decision to be positive, even if you cannot figure out how the situation can be solved. Treat the situation like a challenge in your life and not a punishment. The best way to come out of stress is to focus on positive things. Think of the things that make you happy. What makes a laugh? Think about the funny situation that made you laugh out rolling. Who makes you feel special? Off late, you did something for someone that made the person feel really special about them. Challenge yourself to do things that you are grateful for. See the things that you can notice in front of you that are beautiful and pleasant. Do it while you read this, and see how it works? Are you feeling better? Did you notice any change? The situation would not have changed entirely but yes, you can certainly feel the change. Now, you are in a better mental space and prepared to do something constructive and creative.

By – Angelica Campbell