All of us have to admit that the best things in life do not remain forever. Good things come and go! Nice situations turn into bad ones. People say stuff, things turn out wrong and you might end up in a terrible situation. And, what is even horrible is that no cares to help you out from it, in fact they enjoy seeing you in the miserable situation. Yes, the truth is that no cares seeing you upset! They might have even caused the situation for you. They see you coming and run for a cover. Well, then how on earth will you escape from it all?
Quit your Negative Thinking
Yes, the first and foremost thing is to quit ranting. Your rant is not helping you at all. I know most people say that venting out is helpful. Well, according to me it is not good unless the situation seriously demands it. And, that too it should be just once. What, I believe is that every moment you spend on ranting and for every ounce of energy you spend on talking, you are missing out moments that you could have spent in a better manner like laughing or spending some good time. Whining and crying, you are not solving any problem but intensifying your stress feelings. So, why not spend that energy in a positive manner and that will even help you out from the problematic situation. Stop ranting about the situation and start solving it. Do not make a bad situation worse. Use the energy for something creative and worthwhile.
Stop Thinking and Start Breathing
By ranting you would have realized, how fast your heart starts beating. You are so much heated up that you cannot even think of doing anything positive. Well, that is ok! All that you need to do is just stop thinking. I know, at time sit is a bit difficult to follow, and you have no option but do it. You will have to stop thinking about the situation. Block your mind from all these thoughts. The best way to do so, is start taking slow cleansing deep breaths. If required, close your eyes. Block that voice from your head. I know those things will still want to come to your mind, but continue breathing. Breathe from your diaphragm and put all your energy and attention in inhaling and exhaling slowly and calmly. If this helps then go to a place where there is silence and closing your eyes and doing it, will help you to gain more calmness in mind. It signals your anxiety levels that everything is fine. And, if you still cannot shut off the negative thoughts then hum a happy tune whilst you breathe. Fill in that space with happiness by interrupting the negative thoughts. Allow your breath to flow freely and put in all your energy in breathing.
Exercise your Positive Muscles
Staying in a positive place does require effort. However, being positive is a choice. There is no requirement of being so worked up and overwhelmed about every situation. Take a decision to be positive, even if you cannot figure out how the situation can be solved. Treat the situation like a challenge in your life and not a punishment. The best way to come out of stress is to focus on positive things. Think of the things that make you happy. What makes a laugh? Think about the funny situation that made you laugh out rolling. Who makes you feel special? Off late, you did something for someone that made the person feel really special about them. Challenge yourself to do things that you are grateful for. See the things that you can notice in front of you that are beautiful and pleasant. Do it while you read this, and see how it works? Are you feeling better? Did you notice any change? The situation would not have changed entirely but yes, you can certainly feel the change. Now, you are in a better mental space and prepared to do something constructive and creative.
By – Angelica Campbell