Stay all alone is certainly a bad idea! No one would like the idea of living their life all alone, however at the same time, no of us deserve to spend an entire life in an abusive relationship. We all have been gifted with beautiful lives and certainly should not be wasted with someone who does not understand the worth of another human being. If you are staying with someone who is making your life miserable and does not value your presence in his or her life then by every means you need to step out and live your life the way you want. Stepping out from a relationship is not that easy as easily told, one needs to know what to do and how to do! Therefore, it is important for one to know certain the safest ways of ending a relationship.
The first step is to identify the kind of abuse you are going through and against what you need to stand up. Abuse can be various types like:
- Combination of any of the above
It is very important for the person to understand the kind of abuse they are undergoing as it makes it easy to strategize you the ways to exit. Like for example, if you are undergoing a physical abuse in a relationship then you need to make a complete break off where in no longer you will have to stay with that person. You cannot be hurt physically unless you are touched, therefore the best way is to break up and leave. Similarly, in case of verbal abuse stop all forms of verbal communication. And, if they wish to talk to you, then it should be done in the presence of others. In case if the person is hurting you emotionally or psychologically, then as soon as a person starts doing so, then what they will get to hear should be the dial tone.
Next is, once you have taken the decision of leaving…you need to stick it by all means. For there is a chance, that as soon as your partner gets to know about your decision, he might try to compress the situation by:
- Talking very sweetly and promising you to make things better by putting forth their best behaviour and end of all troubles.
- Also, he might threaten you to worsen things and abuse you more.
Thirdly, you got to be very strong in such situations. Seek the help of someone, in case the situation is getting too torturous and if you are not able to break out from the relationship. Law is always there to help you out from such traumatic situations. You will have to be strong enough to raise your voice against wrong as you have every right to live your life the way you want it. Also, your inner strength will give you the hope to begin your life on a positive note.
Finally, find strength in others. When you break off, the abuser might try to lure you. They will try to play with your emotions to win you back. Suddenly might start doing things that you like, however you need to be very strict with your decision. Surround yourself with people like friends and family who can decide the best for you and also support you in your decision. Interrogate yourself well, in regards to your needs and what you want from life and take a decision. Consider the fact, that whether you can back up the emptiness of the person or is it unbearable for to stay all by yourself. The solution does not come from what your friends and family tells you…it is in you- your thoughts make you the person you are. However, one thing you need to remember is that any relationship is healthy only when there is mutual respect existing between the partners. So, go on and love life as it should be lived.
By- Angelica Campbell